Understanding Narcissistic Abuse
Intimate partner and child abuse can take many forms. Abuse does not have to be physical to cause severe harm. Emotional abuse, including narcissistic abuse, is alarmingly common in romantic and parent-child relationships in the United States. Psychology Today reports that more than half of all adults in the U.S….
Feeling Powerless After Leaving a Relationship
“Power makes us approach. Powerlessness makes us avoid.” -Amy Cuddy (p112 in her book Presence) Do you feel powerless as you leave your relationship with your spouse? Did they systematically undermine your confidence? Do you want to regain your confidence? Is it worth the work to do that? I think…
Protective Dogs Divorce Advice
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.”― Dalai Lama XIV, The Art of Happiness The other night I dreamt I was on a long hike with my sweet pooch up bare rock that reminded me of Zion National Park’s Checkerboard Mesa. At first, it’s just…
Communication With A Narcissist
You are so tired of the lies, the accusations, the full-on gaslighting. You find yourself defending yourself with each narcissist conversation and driving yourself crazy by thinking of ways you may have screwed up. I want you to stop it. You don’t have to defend yourself any longer. When you…
Four (4) Steps to Help You Feel Safe Hearing “Your Song” During and After Divorce
To help you move forward and begin to feel more grounded, I have enlisted the help of my good friend, Jennifer Sutton. Jennifer has a toolbox of practices to help you regain your sense of personal power. Some of the ideas may seem foreign but take a chance on seeing…
Regain Confidence After Dating a Narcissist
To help you move forward and begin to feel more grounded, I have enlisted the help of my good friend, Jennifer Sutton. Jennifer has a toolbox of practices to help you regain your sense of personal power. Some of the ideas may seem foreign but take a chance on seeing…
Things to Ask Yourself Before Introducing Your Child to Your New Dating Partner
Dating after divorce can be complicated, particularly when you have children. If you have a new romantic partner and aren’t sure how to introduce the person to your kids, here are some important questions you should ask yourself first. Can I Date Before the Divorce Is Finalized? While you can…
The Complicated Uncontested
You may think, in the course of a contemplating a divorce, that it’s going to be far easier to have an uncontested divorce. A client comes into my office, and they want an uncontested divorce. I ask them, “Are they going to agree?”. Most of the time, they aren’t sure…
“What Happened to You?”
I read a book recently, “What Happened to You,” written by Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Scott Perry. The book is about childhood trauma. As I read the stories contained in the book, I was reminded of the many clients I’ve seen who have been traumatized themselves or who are trying…